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Treat Yourself Nonviolently

Updated: Jan 16, 2022

When I was younger I used to judge my physical appearance harshly. I didn't like my hair, my face, my body- I always thought that in order to be beautiful I needed to look a certain way- according to magazines, tv, movies, etc. This resulted in anxiety, negative self talk, harmful behaviors and a cycle of consistently making bad choices with relationships, food, and substances. I didn't like myself very much, I treated myself like shit, chose relationships with people who treated me like shit and felt like shit.

Embodying loving kindness and compassion towards myself was a process that evolved over time. I first had to learn how to love all of me just as is. I had to stop criticizing myself and embrace my physical form. I had to stop engaging in behaviors that hurt me. Slowly over time I dropped bad habits and replaced them with healthier ones that support my needs. I began caring for my body through movement, breathing and nourishing food because it made me feel good and I realized that I deserve to feel good. Slowly I built up consistent healthy habits that fuel me. I also stopped allowing disfunctional relationships in my life.