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An Open Letter To My Father

Updated: Jan 16, 2022

An open letter to the Father who raised me:

Thank you for the opportunities you provided for me during this life. My most recent interaction with you inspired this letter. The life education that you have given me in this incarnation tapped me into the knowledge early on that I needed to heal from my childhood trauma wounds so that I wouldn't perpetuate the cycle of disfunction in the world. I did everything in my power to make sure that I would always be a safe adult for any child that I interacted with. I learned that the environment I grew up in was less than ideal for emotional, mental and spiritual health. I learned that it was harmful to my psyche as a child to be screamed at, smacked, threatened, lied to, ignored and punished through removal of affection/communication. I was a witness to and victim of physical and emotional abuse and that is the truth. I learned that being overbearingly controled as a child left me with no true sense of who I was. I own my story. It took me from age 17, when I left your home, to age 41 to gain stable ground and build a sturdy foundation underneath myself. It was quite a messy, uncomfortable, and scary process because I had no parental and few familial examples of what healthy love was. When I left home at 17 I was blessed to be able to gain a bachelor's degree in Psychology. I then spent 13 years in the mental health field and learned how to safely care for, discipline, guide and support children in their development. I learned how to assist in emotional regulation with calmness and communication with love. I learned how to let kids be kids and foster a safe environment for their growth. I learned how to be the adult I wish I had when I was little and had lots of feelings that were denied and told were wrong by the adults around me. I learned how damaging it was to my authentic expression as a human to have been lied to, shamed and guilt tripped during my childhood brain development ye